If you come from a wealthy family and your parents have friends from all walks of life, then learning social etiquette and being a gentleman is very beneficial for you.
If you are just a child from an ordinary family, lacking background and connections, the so-called social etiquette often means being surrounded by worthless friends who exploit and mock you like a monkey. To put it bluntly, those who can frequently associate with wealthy families are not simple people; others' social etiquette can bring resources and opportunities.
However, those who have spent too long in a poor environment are like a group of vampires, waiting for others to succeed so they can get a share. If you interact with such people and speak sincerely with them, how can you not suffer losses? How can you not be treated like a clown and mocked? A person is poor because their mindset is about taking, waiting, and relying on others.
They fantasize all day about their relatives and friends working hard to become wealthy, so they can come and help them. It is precisely because of this mindset that they view those close to them as fools, as sheep to be slaughtered.
What is the essence of social etiquette?
It is the exchange of interests.
But you will find that when you are poor, when you are at your lowest, no matter how much sincerity you have shown to those around you before, others still will not take you seriously. They may even come to mock and attack you, attempting to derive some pleasure from your embarrassment. This is the truth.
Why do they do this?
Because they find that they cannot gain any naked monetary benefits or valuable connections from you. On the contrary, treating you as a clown to mock, ridicule, and repeatedly exploit your value is the best way to interact with you. To put it harshly, the social etiquette of the poor is like scavenging for food in a garbage dump.
No matter how graceful your posture is, no matter how you comfort yourself, that suffocating feeling of nausea will still disgust you at all times. In fact, all the frameworks, rules, morals, and social etiquette in this world are designed to limit the poor.
As the saying goes: If the rich do not act recklessly, they will remain rich for a lifetime; if the poor do not act recklessly, they will remain poor for a lifetime.
It is precisely because the rich have already established themselves that they need social etiquette and gentlemanly manners to maintain their image.
But what about your own situation?
Do you have a substantial family background? Do you have a strong background?
Since you do not, why voluntarily put on a restrictive spell to limit yourself? You are not a wealthy child from some family out experiencing life; voluntarily putting on a restrictive spell, no one can guarantee you will become a Buddha.
In short, in a poor environment, never believe in morals or emotions.
All the excellent qualities you possess in the lower strata of society are competitive disadvantages, actively giving up your chips.
Similarly, in a materially impoverished environment, no matter how flamboyant or outstanding you play the social etiquette game with others, you are merely dancing with worthless people and matters.
In the end, you will surely be cleaned out by everyone, and others will not feel the slightest guilt.