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The greatest foolishness of middle age: being obsessed with low-level socializing

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The text discusses the challenges of being in a low socio-economic environment and emphasizes the importance of distancing oneself from negative influences. It highlights the superficiality of social interactions based on material wealth, urging individuals to seek meaningful relationships and environments that foster personal growth. Key points include: 1. **Social Dynamics**: People often surround themselves with those who flatter them when they have wealth, but they disappear when it's gone. 2. **Negative Influences**: It's crucial to cut ties with friends and relatives who drain your energy and undermine your confidence. 3. **Escape the Low Environment**: Recognize that true support comes from those who genuinely care about your well-being, and strive to find a community that encourages mutual growth. 4. **Cognitive Restructuring**: Distinguish between financial poverty and a poverty mindset; the latter is more detrimental. 5. **Self-Improvement**: Engage in reading, meaningful conversations, and physical activity to elevate your mindset. 6. **Reject Poor Planning**: Understand that inherited beliefs from parents may not lead to a prosperous life. 7. **Pursue Independence and Wealth**: Build relationships based on mutual benefit and avoid those who thrive on conflict. 8. **Upward Socializing**: Focus on connecting with those who can help you grow rather than those who drag you down. In conclusion, achieving financial and emotional independence is essential for personal fulfillment and resisting negative societal influences.

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Thoughts on Breaking Away from the Lower Levels#

Those who have spent a long time in the lower levels share a common trait: "Those who laugh have nothing, those who hate have something." You find yourself in such an environment, seemingly vibrant and bustling, but in reality, others are only drawn to your material possessions.

The Falsehood of Socializing#

  • With material: A circle of sycophants appears around you, elevating you to the skies.
  • Without material: These opportunists scatter like birds and beasts, forgetting you in the rivers and lakes.

Much of the socializing at the lower levels is actually meaningless, and the long-term value you can gain approaches zero. Therefore, you should break away from this environment as soon as possible, start to strictly filter the people and things in your life, and build your own system as much as you can.

Stay Away from Negative People#

  • Fair-weather friends: Those who invite you to indulge in pleasures and gossip all day should be cut off.
  • Unprincipled relatives: Those who are used to undermining and denying you should be distanced from.

The greatest harm of the lower-level environment is that it wears down your fighting spirit, prevents you from making money, forces you to live in poverty and anxiety, and tramples on your self-confidence.

Escape the Lower-Level Environment#

When you are in it, you will find that no one truly cares about you. Those who genuinely care about you will consider your interests. Therefore, you can only escape, boldly stepping over the barriers of the lower levels, crossing the chasms, and reaching a place that can truly nourish you, where you can meet like-minded individuals who encourage each other.

Reshaping Cognition#

  • Poverty of the heart vs. poverty of money: Being financially poor is not scary; what is scary is being poor in spirit. A person who sees no hope in the world and has no understanding of the rules and truths of society will find it hard to succeed.
  • The norm for ordinary people: A lack of guidance in life, combined with a lack of self-education ability, leads most people to go with the flow.

Steps to Change the Status Quo#

  1. Read more, watch fewer videos.
  2. Share learning experiences more, gossip about celebrities less.
  3. Exercise actively, avoid being lazy and complacent.

Reflect on Your Environment#

The first step for ordinary people to gain insight is to start reflecting on their environment, realizing that they should not mix with low-energy people, things, or situations, and to recognize that they should take responsibility for their lives.

Reject Improper Planning#

Your parents may have lived ordinary lives, but their understanding may not support you in living a prosperous life; instead, it may replicate the previous generation's poverty.

Pursue Independence and Abundance#

  • Cognitive Reshaping: True good relationships are mutually giving and beneficial.
  • Lower-level people: The lower the level, the more they enjoy making things difficult for each other, releasing malice to shift their inner pain.

Counterattack and Distance#

If you encounter such people in life, counterattack if necessary, and immediately distance yourself afterward; avoiding excessive entanglement is the best strategy.

Upward Socializing#

Socializing downward is useless; only by staying clear-headed and building an independent personality can you socialize upward, continuously renewing your knowledge base, and have the opportunity to break free from the lower-level environment.

Conclusion#

The money you can earn in your lifetime comes from collaborating and winning with the strong, not from relying on entanglements with the weak. Money and happiness will only flow upwards, while suffering and hardship will only flow to the impoverished and low-lying areas. Anything that consumes you is a poison that needs to be eliminated in a timely manner.

You must first live your life freely, achieve cognitive elevation, to see the world clearly. Strive to stand up for yourself, seeking independence in spirit and wealth, to avoid being destroyed by inferior human nature and assimilated by the utterly boring mediocrity. Living out your abundant self is the entire meaning of effort.

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