The Most Difficult Barrier in Life is the Emotional Barrier#
The emotional barrier is invisible and colorless, yet it can trap a person for a lifetime. It can be a gentle rope or the sharpest knife. Different people face different emotional barriers: some die in love, some are trapped in familial ties, and some fail due to pride. But in the end, it all comes down to being unable to overcome the emotional barrier.
1. What is the Emotional Barrier?#
The emotional barrier is not simply love or familial affection, but a state of emotional attachment. In this state, you place your sense of worth in others, your sense of security in relationships, and your self-meaning in the eyes of others. A single word from someone can lift you to heaven or drop you into hell, making you live like a hostage.
The Cost of Emotional Kidnapping#
Many people live in exhaustion because they dare not refuse their parents' demands, dare not give up a relationship that has long lost its meaning, and dare not confront those with unequal interests. Their emotions are kidnapped, yet they still consider themselves "kind" and "deeply emotional." In fact, onlookers can see that they are merely cowardly.
Emotions Disguised as Morality#
The most ironic thing is that emotions can easily be disguised as morality. Morality seems like rules, but its essence is still emotional. Those who cannot overcome the emotional barrier will be kidnapped by so-called morality, becoming victims of it.
2. Why Do We Say That Once You Overcome the Emotional Barrier, You Become Enlightened?#
Once you cross the emotional barrier, you no longer rely solely on feelings to judge matters, but on facts. You begin to discover that the underlying logic and operating rules of this world are not emotions, but interests and rules.
Seeing the Essence of Relationships#
You will understand that love is never unconditional, and relationships are not always unbreakable. All intimacy is built on some matching of resources, values, or needs. Familial love has blood ties, but also accounts; romantic love has romance, but also involves calculations.
Emotions Above Rules#
You no longer use emotions to compensate for the lack of rules, no longer fantasize about achieving fairness through giving, and no longer try to use "sincerity" to combat order. You see that emotions only have meaning above rules; below rules, emotions are just cheap placebos.
3. After Overcoming the Emotional Barrier, Your World Will Undergo a Qualitative Change#
Once you overcome the emotional barrier, you begin to learn to think. Your interpersonal relationships will become unprecedentedly light. You no longer waste time on toxic people, no longer feel heartbroken over someone's departure, and no longer live in the expectations of others.
Change in Decision-Making#
Your decision-making will also become clean and decisive. You no longer ask "Do I love?" but rather "Is it worth it?" You no longer struggle with "What do others think?" because you know that pride is just an illusion of emotion, while interests and power are the real trump cards.
Awakening from Emotions#
Those who detach from emotions are not heartless, but awakened. Being heartless is rejecting emotions; being awakened is seeing the essence and the real world clearly. To achieve something in life, the minimum requirement is to live in reality.
The World of Adults#
Living in reality, you can still love and be close to others, but you will no longer be emotionally blackmailed, nor will you hand your fate over to others. You begin to learn negotiation instead of humbly begging; you start to learn strategy instead of endlessly indulging; you begin to master the rules instead of passively giving.
Conclusion#
True maturity is not numbness, nor is it crying and throwing tantrums like a child, but a continuous upgrade in cognition. When you reach this point, you deserve true freedom. Those who cannot overcome the emotional barrier are destined to be slaves to their emotions; once you cross it, you can climb from a low-dimensional world to a high-dimensional world, and the entire world will become transparent.