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Heed not to the tree-rustling and leaf-lashing rain, Why not stroll along, whistle and sing under its rein. Lighter and better suited than horses are straw sandals and a bamboo staff, Who's afraid? A palm-leaf plaited cape provides enough to misty weather in life sustain. A thorny spring breeze sobers up the spirit, I feel a slight chill, The setting sun over the mountain offers greetings still. Looking back over the bleak passage survived, The return in time Shall not be affected by windswept rain or shine.
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19 Rules for Life

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From the book "Social Psychology," 19 rules for life can be extracted. These rules include the importance of optimism for disease resistance, the effectiveness of voluntary participation and effort in achieving results, the tendency to blame others for failure, the importance of considering others' perspectives in conflicts, the need for realistic goals in leadership, the value of minority opinions in decision-making, the limited impact of external appearance, the benefits of accepting different groups and opinions, the adaptability of both negative and positive events, the focus on abilities and relationships for happiness, the influence of group dynamics on behavior, the impact of timing on choices, the consideration of consequences before agreeing to help, the influence of attitude on behavior, the separation of work and interests for fulfillment, the avoidance of media that promote violence and pornography, the importance of similarity in marital satisfaction, the diffusion of responsibility in groups, and the reliance on objective facts and data rather than personal experience.

From the book "Social Psychology," 19 rules for life have been extracted:

  1. Optimistic mood can enhance resistance to diseases. Most people with heart disease lack patience, are irritable, and easily angered.

  2. Anything that is voluntarily participated in and requires effort during the process will have more effective and lasting results, such as weight loss.

  3. When successful, people attribute it to their own efforts and abilities; when failing, they blame others and the environment. So next time you fail, try thinking the other way around.

  4. When arguing or conflicting, try considering the other person's feelings from a different perspective, and focus on the issue rather than attacking the person.

  5. If you are a company leader or decision-maker, when setting strategies and tasks, do not set overly high goals, as it will put a lot of pressure on subordinates. If the task is not completed, it will lead to greater frustration.

  6. In meetings or groups, it is important to encourage the behavior of the minority and listen to opposing opinions. Sometimes, the tendency to conform can lead to decision-making errors.

  7. Do not focus too much on your external image. The chances of being noticed are not as high as you imagine.

  8. We always think our own group is the best, but try accepting different groups and different people. Listen to the opinions of those who disagree with you, as it can be enlightening.

  9. The pain caused by many major negative events is not as severe as you imagine. Similarly, exciting things will not bring you more lasting happiness. Therefore, disabilities, illnesses, and poverty can be quickly adapted to, while mansions, luxury cars, and wealth cannot guarantee lifelong happiness.

  10. Pay less attention to self-image and more attention to your talents and interpersonal relationships to experience more happiness.

  11. The power of a group can easily lead to crime and unethical behavior. Therefore, try to control yourself within a group and do not underestimate the power of incitement and instigation.

  12. If two choices are presented together and then the other person is asked to choose after a period of time, they will choose the first one. If the second choice is presented after a certain period of time after the first choice, the other person will choose the second one immediately. If you want someone to agree with your opinion, you know what to do, right?

  13. The "door-in-the-face" effect: When you agree to do a small favor, you are more likely to agree to do a slightly bigger one. So before agreeing to something, think about the consequences it may bring.

  14. Attitude determines behavior, and behavior will further strengthen your attitude.

  15. Separate work from interests. Interests driven by rewards will gradually become burdens rather than genuine interests.

  16. Watch less TV, avoid pornography and violent websites and magazines. Stay away from media that will do anything for page views, ratings, and money. These things are more likely to make you addicted to pornography and violence, leading to increased crime.

  17. In marriage, the greater the similarity between husband and wife, the happier and longer-lasting the marriage.

  18. The attention of individuals within a group towards an event decreases. They all assume that someone else will react. The scene of "not helping when seeing someone in danger" on the subway or bus perfectly illustrates this theory.

  19. Do not rely solely on personal experience. Base your judgments more on objective facts and survey data.

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