Dreamer: Female, 33 years old, in a relationship
Dream: I dreamt that I and my boyfriend were taking a bus and then transferring to another bus to go to Wuming (a county in Nanning) for a trip. When we were coming back, he was carrying a bag and a bicycle lock fell out. I asked him to pick it up, but he refused and said the bus was coming, so he wanted to get on the bus. I got really angry and scolded him. When I saw him get on the bus, I picked up the lock and also got on the bus. After getting on the bus, I asked him how much the bus ticket was, and he said 5 yuan. I asked why it was only 2 yuan when we came here, and he said we had to transfer buses when we came, but now it's a direct bus from Wuming back to Nanning. So we took the bus back together.
Analysis of the dream:
Temporary feelings of love. The "bus" represents a "temporary emotional journey". The dreamer said that her mother does not approve of her relationship because both she and her boyfriend are only children. Her mother believes that having four parents in the future will bring a lot of pressure to their lives. The dreamer feels that in their relationship, both sides are stubborn and willful. The part in the dream where she asks him to pick up the lock but he refuses reflects this stubbornness.
Desire for a relaxed relationship. Going out to play represents a sense of liberation in the dreamer's mood. Going to Wuming is a metaphor for this psychological liberation. This psychological state triggers conflicts and attacks in their usual interactions due to their stubborn personalities. The bicycle represents independence and autonomy, which both of them possess, resulting in a "heart lock". Him not picking it up signifies his disregard for the dreamer's willfulness and his inability to comfort her. Me scolding him represents his own stubbornness conflicting with my personality. This is the result of "coming back", where I got on my boyfriend's "thief ship" and can only experience the "stubborn conflicts caused by being only children" (picking up the lock).
Consideration of emotional value. Due to the strong opposition from her mother and the conflicting feelings caused by the personalities of both parties, the dreamer evaluates the "return" from this emotional experience. "It was only 2 yuan when we came" indicates that despite the personality conflicts, the emotional connection formed through time accumulates, resulting in a deeper emotional bond when "returning" (5 yuan). Moreover, when we came, we had to transfer buses, but now it's a direct bus (it was not easy to come, but it's quick to go back). The psychological conflict between the goal of "nameless" (Wuming) and the inner struggle of "difficult to twist" (Nanning). The goal of going is "nameless" (Wuming), so the emotions have a temporary nature. The process involves mutual stubbornness and hurt. The ending can only be the current inner struggle of "difficult to twist" (Nanning).
The dreamer is a mama's girl and has always lived under her mother's protection. When she went to college and started working, her mother would always cry. Whenever her daughter has a boyfriend, her mother is dissatisfied and worries about various things. Now that her daughter is grown up, she always finds faults with the boy and hinders her daughter's happiness. The difficulties in the dreamer's love life are not only due to her own reasons but also the result of family upbringing, especially the interference from her mother, which is actually the biggest obstacle to her daughter's happiness.